It almost sounds like your dad suffers from depression, which may have been untreated his whole life. He might be miserable inside his own mind and not knowing how to connect. Don’t mess with me i have a crazy grandpa he is also a grumpy old man shirt Just a thought. I been through
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I think those of us who are old enough to have had fathers that came home from WWII, Korea, or just took full advantage of the wealth and boon in society, suffered more from this, than others. I know men who felt the same way, had to always “man up”, don’t cry, etc. Don’t mess with me i have a crazy grandpa he is also a grumpy old man shirtThe first time I saw my father cry, made me love him that much more. It doesn’t make a man a “sissy”! As I grew up in the 60’s and 70’s, I adopted a lot of “independent” ideas, but could never really express them, but, now, I’m as big as a “libber” as all of my girls.
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Sadly, it took me years to finally say.. enough is enough .. and stop trying to get approval from my dad.. To realize that no matter what I did, I was never going to be “daddy’s little girl”. I brought home report cards with an A and was chided for not getting an A+.. In 4th grade I was reading at a 9th grade level, but was asked why I didn’t do as well in math. In my early teens I shared my dream of someday wanting to be a writer and was told that wasn’t practical, so for years I stopped writing anything but what was absolutely necessary to get me by. After graduation, I told him I was thinking of joining the military, I was told I would never make it through basic because I was a quitter. Soon after that I was injured in a motorcycle accident that prevented me from joining. He said I was better off. Now my father has dementia and never fails to tell me how much he loves me and it tears me apart knowing he remembers nothing for more than a few minutes…nothing of my childhood and nothing of the many years we didn’t talk because I stopped trying.