One thing I like to compliment both girls and boys on are their glasses. I got glasses when I was five and I remember so many adults telling me it was a shame I had to wear them or I’d be so pretty. While I don’t want to imply that kids should want to look good, I don’t think they should feel ashamed for something they need, either.
Together they are the Merry Hallows shirt
I think the bigger message is that if you don’t like what someone is saying to or about your child, speak up. As her parent, you hold more power than a stranger. Say, “Violet is also a great artist. She would like brushes for Christmas” or “Violet’s so smart! We’re so proud she’s learned the alphabet.” Together they are the Merry Hallows. My daughter, who is pretty darn cute, doesn’t like people calling her pretty. I’ve been trying to get her to say “Thanks but I’m even more smart and funny” or something along the lines of that. She’s pretty shy so it’s tough but I’m hoping we can find the right combination of words to help people move past the “aren’t you pretty” greeting.
>> Click to buy it on Sunfrog now <<
Together in the Christmas with our shirts!
Also, consider talking about yourself instead of quizzing the kids. I think sometimes I am guilty of this, and I think kids can feel like they are being interrogated or like they have to perform for us. I’m working on cultivating my story-telling capabilities. My husband has a great story he tells about this time when he was a kid and he let skunks into the house. He tells it anytime he finds himself in a situation where he’s having a conversation with a child for the first time. Some kids don’t like having so much intense attention focused on them.