It’s really easy to say “just leave” but here I am, saying to you, that your words tell me that you’re hurting yourself out of some feeling of obligation to people who didn’t care about their very real obligation when you were a kid and into your adulthood until you met your husband. If you can, leave. Stop helping them. Ew, David vintage Schitt’s Creek I don’t know your whole story but this story makes me feel like they don’t deserve your compassion. I’m sorry if I offended you in any way, honestly. I do feel very strongly about things like this when I hear them. I had to learn at a young age that I CAN leave
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They never took care of you. The fact that your husband had to step up to get your dad to stop terrorizing you and in turn stop your mom from purposefully diverting his anger towards her onto you and your sibling(s) makes ME want to get you as far away from them as possible (and I don’t even know you) Ew, David vintage Schitt’s Creek and whatever is keeping you there having to take care of them I hope that falls away and allows you to leave them. I know forgiveness is a huge thing but being in a situation where you don’t want to be, taking care of people who terrorized you as a child doesn’t have to be part of the forgiveness process.
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Sadly some parents don’t know how to be parents. We will never understand why they did what they did. But we must learn to forgive in order to heal. Resentment and hatred will only make you unhappy. Forgive them not because they deserve to be forgiven but because you deserve peace. We all have battles and scars to heal and we should all uplift each other. My exhusband was extremely abusive but i would’ve killed him if he ever laid hands on my kids… A mother should protect her babies with everything they have… I remember throwing myself over my oldest daughter so he couldnt hit her while he was hitting me the whole side of my face and head was swollen and i had bruises on my arms but my baby was safe.. It took me 4 years to get out of that living hell but in that 4 years he never got to touch either one of our 2 kids, i think he knew if he ever did hurt one of them id actually fight back and he wouldnt of won that fight